Self Esteem Boosted Through Pig Interaction

[ad name=”HTML”]This article by Sally Marks is wonderfully inspiring.  I hope you enjoy the sentiments as much as I did….

“I went for a stroll last night.  I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t.  As I walked down the sidewalk I heard the sound of munching.  I assumed that some type of critter was enjoying an evening meal.  It was dark and I wasn’t wearing my glasses, so I didn’t bother looking around.  I just ambled toward the community mail box with my Visa payment in hand, ignored my surroundings, and let my brain cycle through its thoughts.

For the most part I enjoy my little musings, just like I enjoy my dreams.  But every once in a while my mind gets stuck on an idea or situation that annoys me, and I have trouble shaking loose from it.  I was chanting, “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” and reciting a few affirmations regarding my upcoming book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within.  In spite of my efforts, a few errant concepts were buzzing around like flies.  I shooed them away, but they kept returning, ready to spread their filth on my cleaner intentions.

Part of the annoyance is my impatience with getting my book published.  I know that messages of optimism and hope are badly needed, but book publishers have their own agenda and timeline.  They say later and I say “NOW!”  Normally I’m a patient individual, but I am human and I have my limits.  Part of my problem is I veered a bit off course with my original intention.  The sole purpose of writing the book was to help people, but somewhere along the line, my self esteem got involved in the mix.  Every day that I encountered a setback, rejection, or no response at all – I’d get frustrated, angry, or worst of all – sad.

I was making a mistake that I lecture others about – looking outside oneself for validation and acceptance.  In my lapse of judgment, I was feeling like a failure because publishers were not jumping up and down to publish my book.  The problem is I have no control over what others think or do.  If I had good news, I felt great. Bad news and I was upset.  This is a very defeating way to look at things because I was handing over my happiness to the whim of others.  That’s like handing the car keys over to an impaired driver and then getting upset when the car comes back with a dent.

Fortunately, I know better than to indulge in a pity party.  Been there, done that, and I know how the story goes.  So instead, I reviewed this excerpt from the book (written by my co-author, Jackie.)

One of the greatest lessons a person must learn is acceptance of self, or taking  total responsibility for one’s own thoughts, works and actions. This means maturity and loving yourself, filling yourself up with joy. When you have done this, acceptance is no longer an issue nor is it important. You have made peace within you and the world around you. You like the person you are just as you are.

Louie Pasqual, an 18th century philosopher once said “I am concerned about Western man because he could not be alone with himself in an empty room.” In effect, this means we need to go inside ourselves and find our acceptance, peace, joy and love and learn to connect with the power within ourselves. Until we are able to do this, we will never truly be happy and whole. This is what releasing negativity is about, starting the joinery to find the joy within. The only way to do this is change the way we think and perceive the world and people around us. Accepting the only path that can be changed and improved is through your own efforts and not the opinion of others.

Back to my stroll (you thought I really wandered off topic didn’t you?)  As I was walking back home, a car was driving slowly by and came to a halt.  I thought they were going to ask me for directions.  Instead, they asked if I saw the herd of javelina that was in the desert basin.  I realized that I had walked by the beasts, but was so intent on my thoughts, that I hadn’t seen them.  And it wasn’t one or two of the critters – there was a whole herd – mothers and babies, happily munching on the desert fauna.

I was so caught up in my thoughts (and many of them unhappy thoughts at that!) that I was oblivious to a wondrous sight (and maybe even a potentially dangerous one).

The bottom line is I am more than my back account, my career, my writing, my family and any number of things that I use to identify myself.  There are wonderful things right in front of my face that I can choose to see, or ignore.  There is a saying that we can see the moon that is thousands of miles away, but cannot see our own eyebrows without a mirror.  The same is true about our inner beauty.

How ironic that it was a stranger in a car and a herd of wild pigs that helped me see the hidden treasure that was there all along.”


Sally Marks is the president of Marks Public Relations and the co-author of the self-help book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. Check out her blog at   Article Source:

How Can A Hairdryer Reduce Financial Stress?

My life constantly conspires to stress me.  It doesn’t seem to matter what I do, or how much stress I’ve recently got on top of, something always turns up to fling me back into the path of stressed out.  But I am pleased to report that the latest episode of totally unexpected stress has finally ended!

These days it is not uncommon for people to keep valuables in their homes.  Things like jewellery and sentimental papers, credit cards, birth certificates, financial documents and the like.  And of course, passports.  And home safes are becoming increasingly popular as a result. 

Like a lot of people I imagine, we have a touchpad safe and when the batteries died we were prepared.  All we had to do was use the back-up key.  And we knew exactly where it was. Right?

Wrong.  The key wasn’t there even though we BOTH thought it should be.  We don’t lose things which means someone has moved it and with four year old twins the likely culprits are obvious! 

No problem I thought, I’ll phone the manufacturer for a replacement key.  After all, it wasn’t URGENT that we could access the safe, although my other half will soon need his passport…

Wrong again! Having tracked down the manufacturer by a circuitous route via one of their online customers, I discovered that not only is our make and model FIVE years discontinued but there are no longer any spare keys!  My stress levels reached fever pitch.

Faced with the inevitability of an astronomical fee from a locksmith for drilling into the safe (obviously anyone needing to break into their own safe is desperate and therefore willing to pay through the nose), the damage caused to the surroundings (the safe is bolted securely down) and the cost of replacing it with another working safe, I thought laterally.

Twenty minutes later my hairdryer breathed enough life through the safe door and battery panel into the batteries for them to recognise a key code and open the safe door, thus saving us, conservatively around £300.  Fantastic!  And we have access to the passports again!

An alternative title for this post was “WAHM uses hairdryer to crack safe” but I thought it gave the game away too soon.  What do you think?