10 Blocks To Success

So you’ve tried everything you know of to help you achieve your dream. You’ve watched ‘The Secret’, you’ve read all the self-help books, and done everything they’ve suggested, the visualisations, the affirmations, created a vision board and more, and still you feel no nearer to achieving your desired outcome. Maybe you’re even ready to give up. What more can you do?

It seems to me that there are common themes that recur when we fail to achieve our dreams. Blocks, if you like, that stop us from achieving our goals and which will always prevent our success if we have them. Most of these blocks are subconscious. We may not even know we have them. They just fester away in the back of our minds, undoing all the good work we may do from reading, visualising, affirming etc. Have a read through the list below and ask yourself if any one or more of them may apply to you.

1. Deservability – The number one block we put on ourselves is deservability. We simply don’t believe that we deserve to get whatever it is that we desire. We’re just ‘not good enough’. Self-esteem and confidence come into this category too. If you feel deep down inside, that you haven’t the confidence to pull off whatever you‘re dreaming of, it’ll never happen.

2. Doubt – We don’t believe it can really happen for us. We’re afraid to be disappointed when it all goes wrong (as it usually does.) We doubt not only ourselves, but the Universe too.

3. Expectation – We actually ‘expect’ things to go wrong. We believe that because things haven’t come right for us before, they won’t this time.

4. Belief – Could this really happen for you? Or do good things only happen to others?

5. Safety – Often we block ourselves because we won’t feel ‘safe’ if we achieve our dreams. Who would you be without all that extra weight? Who would you be if you won the lottery? What would be the ‘downside’ of achieving your dream? Fear of success and fear of failure come under this heading too. Think about what you fear most about achieving (or not achieving) your dream. What if you get it and it’s not enough, or it’s not right? What if you don’t get it? Are you holding on too tightly to your dream?

6. Scarcity Programming – This is the belief that there’s not enough to go round. Or that if you have, someone else will have to go without.

7. Family Programming – These are the negative beliefs passed on to you by your family. It’s usually your parents that tell you things like “Money doesn’t grow on trees, you know,” and other choice statements! “We’re not a rich family,” “Success doesn’t come easily to our family,” and other such things we learned as children can easily become the rules by which we subconsciously live our own lives. Of course, our parents couldn’t teach us anything they didn’t believe themselves, so there’s no blame on them, but isn’t it time to start living by your own set of ‘rules’?

8. Upsetting Others – Sometimes we may subconsciously sabotage our dreams for fear of upsetting someone else. Who would be upset if you achieved your dream? Are you trying not to outdo a younger or less able sibling or friend?

9. Asking For Too Much – If we’re asking for something that’s not believable to us, we’re not going to get it. Look at your dream and see if you feel it’s realistic to get there from where you are now. If not, bring your ideas in line with what you feel you can actually achieve.

10. Not really wanting it – This last one’s really important. Sometimes we pursue our dream because it’s what we ‘ought’ to want, or because it’s what we think we want. Check with your heart to see if what you’re asking for is really what you want.

Remember, the Law of Attraction works for us all (no exceptions) so have a good think about the list above and see if any or all of them apply to you. These blocks could be preventing you from achieving the very things you say you want.

So how do we remove these blocks? Sometimes blocks can be dismantled easily by simply acknowledging their presence. Sometimes we have to let them go and release them. You can do this by writing them down, then symbolically burn your paper (somewhere safe, of course!), or you can do this verbally out loud.

For me Emotional Freedom Techniques is the easiest and quickest way to dissolving blocks. It’s easy to do and you can do it by yourself in minutes. You can find out more by checking out EFT on the web. Or visit your local library or bookshop and look for books by the many self-help gurus out there. Whatever method you choose, at least you’ll have a head start if you know what your blocks are.

Whichever way you go, I wish you happy dreaming and may all of your dreams come true!

(ArticlesBase ID #1187737) About Me: I am an alternative therapist and workshop leader. I run meditation groups and personal development workshops from my home in Beverley, East Yorkshire and offer Success Coaching and Reiki treatments/attunements and EFT treatments. For information on all of these, and lots more, visit my web site at Rainbows For spiritual, inspirational and motivational chat, visit the Rainbows blog.   Article Source:http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/10-blocks-to-success-1187737.html

Why Are You Still Making Excuses?

Is there something you really want to do?  Anything at all?  It can be something big, like moving to another part of the country.  Or something smaller, like taking an hour of time several times a week to go to the gym.  What’s stopping you?

If there’s something you’ve wanted to do for a while, AND been saying you want to do, why aren’t you doing it?

Do you find that every time you say “I’d like to do…”, you IMMEDIATELY follow it with a whole host of well rehearsed excuses?  Are you creating a pattern of low achievement for yourself?

Did you just think “Yes, but MY excuses are valid REASONS”? 


If there’s something you say you want to do, but continually have a reason why you don’t do it; there are only two possible reasons why:

1.    You really DON’T want to do what you say you do – you just SAY you want to do it out of habit or (worse) because you think you “should” want to do it.

2.    You really DO want to do what you say you do – but, it is risky, forces you to step outside your comfort zone, and/or you are worried it might upset someone you care about.

If your true answer is #1, then stop saying that it is something you want to do.  Let it go.  Feel the freedom.

If your true answer is #2, admit you are using an excuse that allows you to hang onto your desire and provide a logical reason why you can’t do it – keeping you “safe”.

What do your excuses sound like?  Do any of these sound familiar?

·         I’m too dumb/too smart;

·         No one will like/love me

·         I’m not good enough

·         It’s too far from home

·         I don’t have enough money for that

·         No time

·         No one can have it all

We use excuses because they serve us well.  After all, it is easier to go with the flow, maintain the status quo, and turn down the volume on the things we truly desire, especially when they might set us apart from the majority of people we come into contact with. 

Or rather, it seems easier. 

But at what cost?  Lack of fulfilment?  No spark in our lives?  Depression?  Disease?

If you’re not fulfilling your life dream, it’s time to change.

Make a list of all the “bad” things you fear might happen if you were to take the risk to get what you want. – Be completely honest (for example: if I move across the country, my family will no longer love me or come to see me)

Rate each of these “bad” things (1-5) in terms of how likely it really is to happen – 1= not likely and 5 = absolutely certain. 

Unless you’re very unusual, you’ll find that it is pretty unlikely that something horrible is going to happen if you actually do what you want to do.  And, even if it did, you’d find a way to handle it, trust me.  So, stop making excuses. 

Make a list of things you really want to do.  Create a plan to make it happen.  Do it today, not “someday” but today.

Don’t sell yourself short.  Do it now.