Self Esteem Boosted Through Pig Interaction

[ad name=”HTML”]This article by Sally Marks is wonderfully inspiring.  I hope you enjoy the sentiments as much as I did….

“I went for a stroll last night.  I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t.  As I walked down the sidewalk I heard the sound of munching.  I assumed that some type of critter was enjoying an evening meal.  It was dark and I wasn’t wearing my glasses, so I didn’t bother looking around.  I just ambled toward the community mail box with my Visa payment in hand, ignored my surroundings, and let my brain cycle through its thoughts.

For the most part I enjoy my little musings, just like I enjoy my dreams.  But every once in a while my mind gets stuck on an idea or situation that annoys me, and I have trouble shaking loose from it.  I was chanting, “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” and reciting a few affirmations regarding my upcoming book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within.  In spite of my efforts, a few errant concepts were buzzing around like flies.  I shooed them away, but they kept returning, ready to spread their filth on my cleaner intentions.

Part of the annoyance is my impatience with getting my book published.  I know that messages of optimism and hope are badly needed, but book publishers have their own agenda and timeline.  They say later and I say “NOW!”  Normally I’m a patient individual, but I am human and I have my limits.  Part of my problem is I veered a bit off course with my original intention.  The sole purpose of writing the book was to help people, but somewhere along the line, my self esteem got involved in the mix.  Every day that I encountered a setback, rejection, or no response at all – I’d get frustrated, angry, or worst of all – sad.

I was making a mistake that I lecture others about – looking outside oneself for validation and acceptance.  In my lapse of judgment, I was feeling like a failure because publishers were not jumping up and down to publish my book.  The problem is I have no control over what others think or do.  If I had good news, I felt great. Bad news and I was upset.  This is a very defeating way to look at things because I was handing over my happiness to the whim of others.  That’s like handing the car keys over to an impaired driver and then getting upset when the car comes back with a dent.

Fortunately, I know better than to indulge in a pity party.  Been there, done that, and I know how the story goes.  So instead, I reviewed this excerpt from the book (written by my co-author, Jackie.)

One of the greatest lessons a person must learn is acceptance of self, or taking  total responsibility for one’s own thoughts, works and actions. This means maturity and loving yourself, filling yourself up with joy. When you have done this, acceptance is no longer an issue nor is it important. You have made peace within you and the world around you. You like the person you are just as you are.

Louie Pasqual, an 18th century philosopher once said “I am concerned about Western man because he could not be alone with himself in an empty room.” In effect, this means we need to go inside ourselves and find our acceptance, peace, joy and love and learn to connect with the power within ourselves. Until we are able to do this, we will never truly be happy and whole. This is what releasing negativity is about, starting the joinery to find the joy within. The only way to do this is change the way we think and perceive the world and people around us. Accepting the only path that can be changed and improved is through your own efforts and not the opinion of others.

Back to my stroll (you thought I really wandered off topic didn’t you?)  As I was walking back home, a car was driving slowly by and came to a halt.  I thought they were going to ask me for directions.  Instead, they asked if I saw the herd of javelina that was in the desert basin.  I realized that I had walked by the beasts, but was so intent on my thoughts, that I hadn’t seen them.  And it wasn’t one or two of the critters – there was a whole herd – mothers and babies, happily munching on the desert fauna.

I was so caught up in my thoughts (and many of them unhappy thoughts at that!) that I was oblivious to a wondrous sight (and maybe even a potentially dangerous one).

The bottom line is I am more than my back account, my career, my writing, my family and any number of things that I use to identify myself.  There are wonderful things right in front of my face that I can choose to see, or ignore.  There is a saying that we can see the moon that is thousands of miles away, but cannot see our own eyebrows without a mirror.  The same is true about our inner beauty.

How ironic that it was a stranger in a car and a herd of wild pigs that helped me see the hidden treasure that was there all along.”


Sally Marks is the president of Marks Public Relations and the co-author of the self-help book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. Check out her blog at   Article Source:

10 Blocks To Success

So you’ve tried everything you know of to help you achieve your dream. You’ve watched ‘The Secret’, you’ve read all the self-help books, and done everything they’ve suggested, the visualisations, the affirmations, created a vision board and more, and still you feel no nearer to achieving your desired outcome. Maybe you’re even ready to give up. What more can you do?

It seems to me that there are common themes that recur when we fail to achieve our dreams. Blocks, if you like, that stop us from achieving our goals and which will always prevent our success if we have them. Most of these blocks are subconscious. We may not even know we have them. They just fester away in the back of our minds, undoing all the good work we may do from reading, visualising, affirming etc. Have a read through the list below and ask yourself if any one or more of them may apply to you.

1. Deservability – The number one block we put on ourselves is deservability. We simply don’t believe that we deserve to get whatever it is that we desire. We’re just ‘not good enough’. Self-esteem and confidence come into this category too. If you feel deep down inside, that you haven’t the confidence to pull off whatever you‘re dreaming of, it’ll never happen.

2. Doubt – We don’t believe it can really happen for us. We’re afraid to be disappointed when it all goes wrong (as it usually does.) We doubt not only ourselves, but the Universe too.

3. Expectation – We actually ‘expect’ things to go wrong. We believe that because things haven’t come right for us before, they won’t this time.

4. Belief – Could this really happen for you? Or do good things only happen to others?

5. Safety – Often we block ourselves because we won’t feel ‘safe’ if we achieve our dreams. Who would you be without all that extra weight? Who would you be if you won the lottery? What would be the ‘downside’ of achieving your dream? Fear of success and fear of failure come under this heading too. Think about what you fear most about achieving (or not achieving) your dream. What if you get it and it’s not enough, or it’s not right? What if you don’t get it? Are you holding on too tightly to your dream?

6. Scarcity Programming – This is the belief that there’s not enough to go round. Or that if you have, someone else will have to go without.

7. Family Programming – These are the negative beliefs passed on to you by your family. It’s usually your parents that tell you things like “Money doesn’t grow on trees, you know,” and other choice statements! “We’re not a rich family,” “Success doesn’t come easily to our family,” and other such things we learned as children can easily become the rules by which we subconsciously live our own lives. Of course, our parents couldn’t teach us anything they didn’t believe themselves, so there’s no blame on them, but isn’t it time to start living by your own set of ‘rules’?

8. Upsetting Others – Sometimes we may subconsciously sabotage our dreams for fear of upsetting someone else. Who would be upset if you achieved your dream? Are you trying not to outdo a younger or less able sibling or friend?

9. Asking For Too Much – If we’re asking for something that’s not believable to us, we’re not going to get it. Look at your dream and see if you feel it’s realistic to get there from where you are now. If not, bring your ideas in line with what you feel you can actually achieve.

10. Not really wanting it – This last one’s really important. Sometimes we pursue our dream because it’s what we ‘ought’ to want, or because it’s what we think we want. Check with your heart to see if what you’re asking for is really what you want.

Remember, the Law of Attraction works for us all (no exceptions) so have a good think about the list above and see if any or all of them apply to you. These blocks could be preventing you from achieving the very things you say you want.

So how do we remove these blocks? Sometimes blocks can be dismantled easily by simply acknowledging their presence. Sometimes we have to let them go and release them. You can do this by writing them down, then symbolically burn your paper (somewhere safe, of course!), or you can do this verbally out loud.

For me Emotional Freedom Techniques is the easiest and quickest way to dissolving blocks. It’s easy to do and you can do it by yourself in minutes. You can find out more by checking out EFT on the web. Or visit your local library or bookshop and look for books by the many self-help gurus out there. Whatever method you choose, at least you’ll have a head start if you know what your blocks are.

Whichever way you go, I wish you happy dreaming and may all of your dreams come true!

(ArticlesBase ID #1187737) About Me: I am an alternative therapist and workshop leader. I run meditation groups and personal development workshops from my home in Beverley, East Yorkshire and offer Success Coaching and Reiki treatments/attunements and EFT treatments. For information on all of these, and lots more, visit my web site at Rainbows For spiritual, inspirational and motivational chat, visit the Rainbows blog.   Article Source: