Self Esteem Boosted Through Pig Interaction

[ad name=”HTML”]This article by Sally Marks is wonderfully inspiring.  I hope you enjoy the sentiments as much as I did….

“I went for a stroll last night.  I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t.  As I walked down the sidewalk I heard the sound of munching.  I assumed that some type of critter was enjoying an evening meal.  It was dark and I wasn’t wearing my glasses, so I didn’t bother looking around.  I just ambled toward the community mail box with my Visa payment in hand, ignored my surroundings, and let my brain cycle through its thoughts.

For the most part I enjoy my little musings, just like I enjoy my dreams.  But every once in a while my mind gets stuck on an idea or situation that annoys me, and I have trouble shaking loose from it.  I was chanting, “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” and reciting a few affirmations regarding my upcoming book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within.  In spite of my efforts, a few errant concepts were buzzing around like flies.  I shooed them away, but they kept returning, ready to spread their filth on my cleaner intentions.

Part of the annoyance is my impatience with getting my book published.  I know that messages of optimism and hope are badly needed, but book publishers have their own agenda and timeline.  They say later and I say “NOW!”  Normally I’m a patient individual, but I am human and I have my limits.  Part of my problem is I veered a bit off course with my original intention.  The sole purpose of writing the book was to help people, but somewhere along the line, my self esteem got involved in the mix.  Every day that I encountered a setback, rejection, or no response at all – I’d get frustrated, angry, or worst of all – sad.

I was making a mistake that I lecture others about – looking outside oneself for validation and acceptance.  In my lapse of judgment, I was feeling like a failure because publishers were not jumping up and down to publish my book.  The problem is I have no control over what others think or do.  If I had good news, I felt great. Bad news and I was upset.  This is a very defeating way to look at things because I was handing over my happiness to the whim of others.  That’s like handing the car keys over to an impaired driver and then getting upset when the car comes back with a dent.

Fortunately, I know better than to indulge in a pity party.  Been there, done that, and I know how the story goes.  So instead, I reviewed this excerpt from the book (written by my co-author, Jackie.)

One of the greatest lessons a person must learn is acceptance of self, or taking  total responsibility for one’s own thoughts, works and actions. This means maturity and loving yourself, filling yourself up with joy. When you have done this, acceptance is no longer an issue nor is it important. You have made peace within you and the world around you. You like the person you are just as you are.

Louie Pasqual, an 18th century philosopher once said “I am concerned about Western man because he could not be alone with himself in an empty room.” In effect, this means we need to go inside ourselves and find our acceptance, peace, joy and love and learn to connect with the power within ourselves. Until we are able to do this, we will never truly be happy and whole. This is what releasing negativity is about, starting the joinery to find the joy within. The only way to do this is change the way we think and perceive the world and people around us. Accepting the only path that can be changed and improved is through your own efforts and not the opinion of others.

Back to my stroll (you thought I really wandered off topic didn’t you?)  As I was walking back home, a car was driving slowly by and came to a halt.  I thought they were going to ask me for directions.  Instead, they asked if I saw the herd of javelina that was in the desert basin.  I realized that I had walked by the beasts, but was so intent on my thoughts, that I hadn’t seen them.  And it wasn’t one or two of the critters – there was a whole herd – mothers and babies, happily munching on the desert fauna.

I was so caught up in my thoughts (and many of them unhappy thoughts at that!) that I was oblivious to a wondrous sight (and maybe even a potentially dangerous one).

The bottom line is I am more than my back account, my career, my writing, my family and any number of things that I use to identify myself.  There are wonderful things right in front of my face that I can choose to see, or ignore.  There is a saying that we can see the moon that is thousands of miles away, but cannot see our own eyebrows without a mirror.  The same is true about our inner beauty.

How ironic that it was a stranger in a car and a herd of wild pigs that helped me see the hidden treasure that was there all along.”


Sally Marks is the president of Marks Public Relations and the co-author of the self-help book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. Check out her blog at   Article Source:

Use Music To Stay Motivated

From time to time life just gets on top of me.  I can’t be alone in this.  It’s not that I don’t love my family, dogs, internet business building etc, it’s just that life seems to get in the way of everything I try to do.  My To Do List is longer at the end of the day than at the start and I just feel it’s all getting on top of me.

Do you ever have those days?

At times like that I find it very hard to stay focused and even harder to stay motivated.  And it’s a fact that when you are not motivated, you are more likely to suffer depression and burn out.  So unless you’ve got the time and money to check into an expensive health club for some serious pampering, what can us mere mortals do to stay motivated?

Listen to music.

Have you ever noticed just how much your mood changes when you listen to music?.  The lyrics, the beat, they just get inside your head and without knowing it your mood starts to lift.  Music is a great motivator.

Of course you have to choose what you need.  What spiritually enhances one person may have adverse effects on another – personally I feel like slitting my wrists when I listen Joy Division (named for irony methinks!) but I know people who feel energised by their tracks. 

The right kind of music will transform your entire outlook and can give you back your life sparkle if you get it right.  But, do not listen to love songs after a messy break up and expect to feel motivated!  It won’t happen!

And if you’re anything like me, choose songs with meaningful lyrics.  If the lyrics are inspiring enough, they should lift your spirits and leave you more motivated no matter how low your motivation levels were beforehand! 

Music works by releasing the tension in your mind, relaxing it and by filling it with high energy that leaves you more motivated.  Listening to music works!  Just don’t forget to use your headphones, especially if you’re doing a late night stint on your blog!