Surprising Stress Relief For Kids

I had a big “lightbulb” moment over the week end.  Every week my sons get a list of spellings and times tables to learn on top of their usual homework and reading and getting it all done can really stress them out because all they want to do is usual “boys stuff”.  However, because I was always good at spellings, and because it is important, I always make a huge effort with them to learn their spellings and times tables and make sure they get top marks whenever possible.

But this week the spellings were noticeably more difficult that the last few weeks.  The words were all similar, 2 or 3 syllables long and all started with either dis, dec, disc, desc or pre – disallow, discipline, decision, description, preview and so on – 20 of them in total. 

One of my sons found the going especially tough.  In particular, when we tackled “desciption” (the only desc- word), he got muddled on all the other words he knew.  He was really trying hard and we were both getting stressed.  I really kept up with the effort though because – to me – spellings are simply a matter of going through them again and again.  However, it just isn’t that simple to everyone and it became clear he’d reached his limit.

I realised that he was not going to get them all right and that it was just the one word that created the chaos in his brain.   So I decided to let go of my own perfectionism, my own targets – and go with his.  I told him to ignore the one spelling and pretend he only had nineteen.  By concentrating on the ones he felt he could do, we boosted his confidence instead of killing it by focusing on the ones he couldn’t.

We proved to him that he could get a perfectly good score in what was going to be a difficult test (he’s 7) and he went into school on the morning of the spelling test feeling relaxed and confident about what he could do. 

Because I had let go of my ideals, my own perfectionism and stopped piling the pressure on him, he became less stressed and so more capable.  It’s not fair for parents to pressurise their kids.  Kids these days have far too much stress in their lives as it is and they just don’t need more from the very people who are supposed to be protecting them and guiding them in this world. 

The Serenity Prayer says:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

And that includes children.  Being a parent is stressful, but there are times when you need to keep that stress to yourself.  Never stress your children with your aspirations. Instead be the stress relief for your children. Being a good parent means that accepting the limitations of your children.  Sure, give them opportunities to grow and develop, encourage them, guide them, teach them and stretch them when they can do more, but have the wisdom to realise when you are flogging a dead horse – and don’t stress them with something they’re not ready for or are just not cut out for – simply because you want them to do it.

I learnt a valuable lesson this weekend.  I learn a new form of stress relief for kids.  My son learnt his spellings.  He did well, but if you want to know exactly how well, you’ve missed the point of this blog post. 🙂 

Leave a comment to let me know what you think.

Is Laughter Really the Best Stress Medicine For Dealing With Stress?

There are so many ways to deal with stress depending on whether you are looking for a long term solution or a rough and ready quick fix.  But one of my favorites is laughter.  This is one of the best ways to raise your mood, lower your cortisol levels and increase your serotonin.   But it’s not just me…  Here’s what Joe Golson, a guest contributor has to say about it.

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There are so many different things that we have to go through in life on a regular basis and one of the more difficult is the stress that we may be experiencing. Some of us have stress at home, and this can be some of the more difficult to deal with, especially because we tend to need to deal with it on our own.

Stress at work is also difficult to handle and many of us may find ourselves in a situation where we are doing the job of two people but only getting the appreciation that would come to one person. In order to overcome these problems, an outlet needs to be found.

There is an old saying that laughter is the best stress medicine, and many of us tend to agree that it is an excellent way for us to be able to overcome the stress that we are feeling. A few moments of laughing can help to lighten our mood and makes the problems that we are experiencing during the day vanish from before our eyes.

Unlike other forms of stress relief, such as stretching or meditation, laughter is not always going to be the appropriate way for you to be able to get rid of your stress. If you have the time to be able to do it, however, there is nothing quite like it.

One of the things that I found to be very beneficial was to keep several comedy CDs in the car for the trip home. I often enjoy listening to something that is going to expand my mind whenever I am in the car. For example, I have gotten somewhat comfortable with several languages because I was listening to language CDs whenever I was on my way to work.

My time on the way home from work, however, is dedicated to de-stressing so that I don’t carry it all home with me. That is why I find that laughing on way home from work is an excellent way to forget about my problems.

If you find that a lot of your stress is coming from home, laughter may also be able to help to diffuse some difficult situations. Always make sure that you keep this in mind and try to make light of things whenever it is appropriate. You could also try to add some type of laughter into your entertainment as well. Keep in mind, a little bit of laughter can go a long way when dealing with stress because laughter is the best stress medicine.

About the Author:
Joe Golson – Natural Health And Wellness Enthusiast,writer and promoter of GNLD Natural Health And Wellness products.For other natural health information on how to
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