Stress relief comes in many forms. One of the most useful in my opinion, and perhaps hardest to achieve at least initially, is developing a positive mental attitude. After all, in today’s hectic and high stress environment, it is often easier to lapse into negative thoughts than to remain positive and happy, even when you know it is just not helpful.
I doubt this is new to anyone who has been online for any length of time. After all, developing and maintaining a positive mental attitude is the underlying principle for “The Secret”, the Secret behind the Secret, the Laws of Attraction and the Forgotten Laws. It is necessary in order to attract positive things into your life and to enable you to live the life you want.
However, negative thinking is addictive. It makes you feel better when you are at your lowest ebb. It gives you an excuse for not being the person you want to be, and not having the life you want. You can convince yourself that your work colleague, relative etc has it easier than you; that it is not your fault. This creates a self fulfilling negative spiral. It is essential that you overcome all of your negative inner speak as soon as possible.
However, if you are anything like me, this is not always easy. Nonetheless, the more you practise, the more emotionally robust you become and the less likely you are to start a negative internal chat. Here are a few tips I find helpful:
Plant Mental Seeds
If you wanted tomatoes, you would plant seeds, water and nurture them and be patient. The same is true with developing a positive mental attitude. You need to plant good thoughts in your mind. Take time EVERY DAY to appreciate and be grateful for things already in your life. This may be a return to health, your children, wonderful pets, good friends, a good bottle of wine, THOSE shoes, being able to buy your dream car, having an amazing foreign holiday, the chance to follow a dream etc. It could be absolutely anything in fact – as long as it makes YOU feel good.
Get your mind used to thinking about positive things. Take time to enjoy the wonders of the world; the smell of wild flowers, birdsong, a sunset, dew on a spider’s web, your dog coming when called etc . If you can, spend time with a young child and you will soon rediscover their infectious wonderment at the smallest thing. Get used to being joyful and you will start attracting more joy into your life.
Say Thank You
Saying “thank you” puts a positive thought into your head. It spreads goodwill and makes people feel better. (The reverse is also true – remember how you felt when someone forgot to thank you for stopping and letting them in at that junction?) As it is believed that you an only have one thought at a time, filling your head with positive thoughts will block any negative ones.
So there are my three simple ways to help you turn your attitude around. Train yourself every day and you will find a positive attitude easier and easier to maintain. And that will improve your outlook, lower your stress, keep you motivated and change your life for the better.
Why not leave a comment below and let me know what you do?