3 Steps To A Positive Mental Attitude

Stress relief comes in many forms.  One of the most useful in my opinion, and perhaps hardest to achieve at least initially, is developing a positive mental attitude.  After all, in today’s hectic and high stress environment, it is often easier to lapse into negative thoughts than to remain positive and happy, even when you know it is just not helpful.

I doubt this is new to anyone who has been online for any length of time.  After all, developing and maintaining a positive mental attitude is the underlying principle for “The Secret”, the Secret behind the Secret, the Laws of Attraction and the Forgotten Laws.  It is necessary in order to attract positive things into your life and to enable you to live the life you want. 

However, negative thinking is addictive.  It makes you feel better when you are at your lowest ebb.  It gives you an excuse for not being the person you want to be, and not having the life you want.  You can convince yourself that your work colleague, relative etc has it easier than you; that it is not your fault.  This creates a self fulfilling negative spiral.  It is essential that you overcome all of your negative inner speak as soon as possible.

However, if you are anything like me, this is not always easy. Nonetheless, the more you practise, the more emotionally robust you become and the less likely you are to start a negative internal chat.  Here are a few tips I find helpful:

Charlie Plant Mental Seeds
If you wanted tomatoes, you would plant seeds, water and nurture them and be patient.  The same is true with developing a positive mental attitude.  You need to plant good thoughts in your mind. Take time EVERY DAY to appreciate and be grateful for things already in your life.  This may be a return to health, your children, wonderful pets, good friends, a good bottle of wine, THOSE shoes, being able to buy your dream car, having an amazing foreign holiday, the chance to follow a dream etc.  It could be absolutely anything in fact – as long as it makes YOU feel good.

Rediscover Joy
Get your mind used to thinking about positive things.  Take time to enjoy the wonders of the world; the smell of wild flowers, birdsong, a sunset, dew on a spider’s web, your dog coming when called etc .  If you can, spend time with a young child and you will soon rediscover their infectious wonderment at the smallest thing. Get used to being joyful and you will start attracting more joy into your life.

Say Thank You
Saying “thank you” puts a positive thought into your head. It spreads goodwill and makes people feel better.  (The reverse is also true – remember how you felt when someone forgot to thank you for stopping and letting them in at that junction?) As it is believed that you an only have one thought at a time, filling your head with positive thoughts will block any negative ones.

So there are my three simple ways to help you turn your attitude around.  Train yourself every day and you will find a positive attitude easier and easier to maintain.  And that will improve your outlook, lower your stress, keep you motivated and change your life for the better.

Why not leave a comment below and let me know what you do? 

Are You A Noun Or A Verb?

But if you are not happy, the harsh truth is that you need to do something. I’ll say that again. If you want to live the life you dream of, rather than the life that is dealt to you, you have to do something about it.

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about my life.  And something came to mind that I read once.  I don’t remember the exact quote, or where I read it but it was something about people generally being nouns when the world needed verbs.  (Bear with me).

What I took this to mean was that people generally lived their lives with things being done to them rather than taking control and doing things themselves.  No doubt there are other interpretations – not least that the person who said it had had a drink or two too many! 🙂 

But thinking about it, I think it is true and I’m living proof!

When I first started work after University, like a lot of hopeful, shiny new graduates, I came to London.  I had accepted a job on a graduate career programme which did not excite me but as I was brought up with a strong work ethic, I didn’t think that mattered.  I started the daily commute on the London Underground.  At that time, I had to use the Northern Line, which is actually over ground on the outskirts of London and “goes underground” after Golders Green.  I never got a seat and always stood in the same carriage and braced myself against the adjoining carriage. 

Every day I got up, followed exactly the same routine as the day before and caught the tube.  Every day I felt a sinking feeling hit me as that tunnel approached when the sunlight was extinguished from the train as it entered the underground network.  Day in, day out, the same thing.  Then one day as the doors closed at Golders Green and the train entered the tunnel I remember thinking “Is this all there is for the rest of my life?” 

This shook me to the core.

I had entered the corporate world thinking they wanted the bright, young thing, energetic and active.  A doer.  A verb.  But within months they had knocked all enthusiasm out of me.  With their attitudes and way of doing things, it was clear what they actually wanted was another corporate cog – I had become a noun. 

This had happened so gradually I hadn’t even noticed!  That’s when I started looking for another job!  I took action. 

And it’s the same for any business, offline or online.  I’m not saying that sticking with the status quo is wrong; many people live very happy and decent lives doing just that.  But if you are not happy, the harsh truth is that you need to do something.  I’ll say that again.  If you want to live the life you dream of, rather than the life that is dealt to you, you have to do something about it.

I’m still striving for my perfect life, but it’s closer now than it’s ever been and getting closer by the month!  Be a verb.  Do it your way and don’t give up until you get there.