another great post! If only our negative voices would ‘shut up’ for good! Imagine how life would be if we only had positive thoughts and images in our head … I am most certain the world would be a better place

Susan, I so enjoy coming here to get my focus all straightened out again!!
Svenja

I have found that people fail to leave their comfort zones and make changes they desire because they associate more pain than pleasure to what they desire.

For example, I had a friend who worked for his current company for 15 years. He knew he was underpaid, and he stated that his employer didn’t value his service to the company. For years he wanted to find a new job where he could earn more money and be appreciated for his work ethic.

I advised him to go for it, but he had associated too much pain to the change. Specifically, he truly believed that if he left his current employer, he would get laid off or fired by the new company. I told him to focus on the benefits — more money, better treatment from his employer, and better perks from the company.

After working with him for a few sessions, I discovered that when he was seven years old, his father was laid off 2 months after he changed companies. As a result of his father’s layoff, his family had to move to another city, and he was separated from his best friend.

His Ego had convinced him that it was safer to stay and be miserable than to change his condition and make more money. The problem was, the Ego was using this experience that occurred when he was seven years old as the basis to keep him trapped in his current job.

Change to the Ego means danger, and it will do anything it can to keep you safe. It will even lie to you or make up a story to make sure you don’t leave your comfort zone.

Namaste,

Reginald

http://www.reginaldcuffee.com

You might be interested to read Reg Cuffee’s post: http://reginaldcuffee.com/letting-go-of-wanting/

Kind of ties in with what you are saying, I thought.

Enjoy the journey.

Mandy